Exploring the Inner Architecture of Choice


Sometimes people ask me: “why am I so hard on my partner?”

I love this question and I think I might know the answer.

Do you think you might be angry… maybe even rage level angry?

You’ve been dealing with the residue of thousands of years of patriarchy packed into and then imploding your one century, but simultaneously, you are STILL told that you can’t show your anger.

Now, if your partner is a sweetheart THEN it can be worth working with this question INWARD: “why am I so hard on ME?”

“What is ready to be released?”

Some people will read this sentence and think I just offered advice to “be nice” or “hold in there” and “put up with stuff”. That’s your conditioning.

Read it again: IF it’s a healthy relationship between two adults who respect each other, want to learn, grow and be better for this relationship work, THEN try turning your attention INSIDE.

If you are in an outright abusive dynamic, I will promise to share some facts on what you may not be seeing.

But, most of the time, I am going to point you back into your own heart, navel and sacral bowl and invite you to ask your own power centers: “What do I want more of? What do I want to deepen in? What could I give more space to?”

In other words, rather than get all tied up in what you want or don’t want from your partner and using your therapy hour talking about their inadequacies … I’d like to acknowledge YOUR deepest wants and needs and invite you to receive yourself … as in my experience, this can lead to long, LASTING shifts ♡ 


Angela Cara

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