Focusing on a New Year
It’s that time of year that everyone’s on fire with setting intentions!
“I will love myself more.”
“I will exercise more.”
“I will eat healthier.”
I don’t know about you, but I’ve always found that any attempts at self-discipline later turn into an unkind voice when I don’t show up in the way I’d wanted to.
So these days I ask myself, am I banishing other parts to the shadow with this goal ~ My inner child? My sadness? My sacred rebel?
Some of you may’ve heard me say before that when we relegate any part of ourselves to the shadow, we don’t actually get rid of it. In fact, we end up giving it more power.
In the therapy room, I may even ask you about that unkind voice or body sense: What does your inner critic sound or feel like? Is it your voice? Is it harsh? Some people find a voice inside that is hard to face. It would sure use a lot of power trying to constantly keep things split. It would be exhausting, and extremely challenging to be self-loving when all that energy is busy in battle! Having even a positive goal can end up feeling counter-productive.
If your “resolutions” end up leading to more frustration, judgment and resistance … how about rolling with that resistance? Where do you feel it? How big is it? Is there any way to feel the edges of it?
I plan to spend some time this week reflecting on the year that has past and creating a focus for the new year ahead that can be agreed upon by my inner community and the whole of my felt sense.
A friend recently reminded me of one of my favourite Carl Jung quotes yesterday: “I would rather be whole than good.”
In the spirit of honouring wholeness, Jill and I have created a couple of free offerings for your enjoyment:
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“Circlework provided for me a space to reflect and feel connected to myself and other women. To be able to take that feeling—that space—with me day to day provided me with a sense of empowerment and reassurance to any challenges I may face.”
-NADIA, VANCOUVER, BC